Why we seek validation and what to do about it

Who else notices themselves seeking validation unintentionally?

Working as a coach seeking validation is a common problem I see. 

When we seek validation we separate with a part of our true identity. 

The real person behind the ego is fearless and therefore does not seek approval. 

Watch this video to uncover the reasons why we seek approval and what to do about it. 

Intentional Actions

1. Share your suffering

We grow through insights and pain. Insights arise once we have explored our pain. Suffering is a ubiquitous part of the human experience. Through sharing our suffering, we see commonalities over differences. 

2. Meditate on your inherent value

Close your eyes, relax your muscles and ask yourself three questions repeatedly: what do I value about myself? Why do I value it? How can I provide value to others?

This simple practice of self-referral will strengthen your inner connection. 

3. Passwords

I learnt this from the renowned therapist Marissa Peer.

How frequently do you enter your password? What if your password was a statement of self-love? Marissa Peer is famous for her mantra - "I am enough". 

Never underestimate the powerful effect of our repeated subconscious actions on our mindset. Once you have unquestionable faith in your worth, external validation does not seem as necessary. 

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1 Character Challenge

Humility

Through humility, we continuously learn.

Seeking validation may occur when we see ourselves over the finish line. However, your true self knows the journey of growth never ends. 

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Resources

1. Marisa Peer on the power of I am enough.

2. Deepak Chopra on what is ego?

3. Eckhart Tolle on ego

Enjoy!

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