How to respond to criticism

Do you ever notice yourself speechless when faced with criticism...

Or worse, have you said something in defence that left you feeling guilty?

The only way to avoid criticism is to do nothing...

We don't want that!

Watch this video to equip yourself with a game plan on how to respond to criticism.

Without a plan, we don't connect; we react. 

And connection is the key to fulfilment.

Intentional Actions

1. Thank the haters- instantly, when we practice gratitude, we can flip our emotional state. Thanking people for their opinions takes the sting out of a situation and lets them know you have no interest in reacting negatively. Your happiness is worth more than being "right". 

2. Look in the mirror- constructive criticism provides an opportunity for development. If you are serious about growing, then reflecting on their comments may be helpful. Ask yourself - could it be true? 

3. Plan your response - in the moment, you do not need to respond to criticism. However, after time in reflection, it may be necessary to change your actions to shift your thinking. Try using the do, dump and delay method - is there anything I need to do? Can I dump this information? Could I delay this response? 

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1 Character Challenge

Learner

If you are clear on your identity as a learner, then constructive criticism inspires you. It challenges you to change your behaviour. 

Learners are concerned with one dominant question; am I taking positive steps on the journey to self-actualisation?

The beauty of a learner mindset is that it relies on no one but you.  

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Resources

1. World-Renowned author and therapist Marissa Peer on criticism. 
2. Esther Perel bickering in relationships
3. John Gottman's 4 horseman

 Enjoy!

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